good morning, happy friday. i LOVE how backwards ur advice is. i feel like all i ever hear is “be reasonable,” which is really just another way of saying, “do what everyone else is doing.” or “everyone else does it this way, why can’t you be like them.”
goes hand-in-hand with “normal” becoming a positive thing in our society. you see it a lot in school and stuff. “oh, they’re normal” has become equivalent to “cool” when, to me, they’re almost antithetical.
i feel like “cool” should be more like “in tune,” or being able to see past status / life position and appraise things / people as they are. remove individuals from their circumstances and understand them. if they weren’t x’s child or if they didn’t come from y, would they have value? do they have skills? do they stand on their own?
in other words, defining people as individuals, rather than the groups they happen to be a part of.
it’s like what you said about the winner in natural selection not being the smartest or the strongest, but the most adaptable. having the best “read on the land.” if being normal is fitting with the status quo, in times of change, that makes you, at best, behind, or at worst, a roadblock to progress.
not to say there’s value in being different for the sake of being different because, as you’ve covered, being different / a “lone wolf” is hard and can really hurt. that’s just to say, who has ever accomplished anything extraordinary being normal?
thanks very much. sorry to get all worked up on your post. happy friday hahah
Hey Zak - Thanks for your comment...clearly you *get it* and I personally think it's fantastic when someone gets fired up about a post or a concept. Never lose that, and I appreciate your insights and fire here!
good morning, happy friday. i LOVE how backwards ur advice is. i feel like all i ever hear is “be reasonable,” which is really just another way of saying, “do what everyone else is doing.” or “everyone else does it this way, why can’t you be like them.”
goes hand-in-hand with “normal” becoming a positive thing in our society. you see it a lot in school and stuff. “oh, they’re normal” has become equivalent to “cool” when, to me, they’re almost antithetical.
i feel like “cool” should be more like “in tune,” or being able to see past status / life position and appraise things / people as they are. remove individuals from their circumstances and understand them. if they weren’t x’s child or if they didn’t come from y, would they have value? do they have skills? do they stand on their own?
in other words, defining people as individuals, rather than the groups they happen to be a part of.
it’s like what you said about the winner in natural selection not being the smartest or the strongest, but the most adaptable. having the best “read on the land.” if being normal is fitting with the status quo, in times of change, that makes you, at best, behind, or at worst, a roadblock to progress.
not to say there’s value in being different for the sake of being different because, as you’ve covered, being different / a “lone wolf” is hard and can really hurt. that’s just to say, who has ever accomplished anything extraordinary being normal?
thanks very much. sorry to get all worked up on your post. happy friday hahah
Hey Zak - Thanks for your comment...clearly you *get it* and I personally think it's fantastic when someone gets fired up about a post or a concept. Never lose that, and I appreciate your insights and fire here!
nice of u to say - thanks a ton!