Receiving Feedback is hard - but essential to become better.
This week, ditch defensiveness, and remember that everything is information. Good, bad, or indifferent — the reactions you witness from others, the conversations you participate in, the criticisms you receive…you get to decide what to do with it. You get to decide what’s valid and what to toss aside.
But the problem? Most people get caught up in their emotions. They get angry or upset — and they start rejecting information wholesale because it stings the ego. In the process, many lose a valuable opportunity to use that information to grow - and to gain an advantage moving ahead.
Instead, accept feedback for what it is — words, data, or input — and remember that it’s a two-step process. Step one? Listen to it. Step two? Parse it out. Take what’s helpful and leave the rest…just don’t throw it all out the window because your emotions got the best of you.
Thanks Julie! I loved that cartoon of "Hard choices, easy life; Easy choices, hard life."
Inspired by your point on feedback, here's my friendly feedback on your 4th point that "The biggest obstacle to achievement isn't skill, it's comfort":
Yes, discomfort is needed to achieve anything. At the same time, discomfort isn't enough and can often be counterproductive. More important is making yourself uncomfortable in the right ways. So I'd argue the biggest obstacle to achievement is delusion. Because if you have perfect clarity on what needs to be done to achieve what you want (and are not drawn toward misguided beliefs about what "achievement" entails), you will make the most progress. Even then your pursuit won't be comfortable, but it won't be unnecessarily uncomfortable, either.
What do you think? I welcome your feedback on my feedback!